Creating your canvas

At what point in life do you stop evolving and settle into who you are? Is there a day that you just stop growing and changing and have become who you will always be?

The simple answer that most people will say is, " You never stop changing and growing".

Well yes, I realize that my hatred of meatloaf might one day turn into a pure obsession. However I don't think this shapes me. They say that your brain grows the most in the first few months of life. But when does it stop?

I am sure there is a mathematical study backing this up, but I am just over thinking life and not interested in what a study shoves in my face today.

My personal opinion is this, while you are forever changing your core values never will. These are embedded in your heart and soul and will rarely change. However I think that people can will themselves to change or change because they have a mammoth sized change in their life.

For example: I am an outgoing, opinionated person. I am working on holding my tongue more often- i.e......willing myself to change.

Right now, as I type my BFF/mother is on a road trip solo (excluding her Chihuahua Gracie May). Although I hate the thought of her driving up the coast of Oregon by herself, I gotta say, she is pretty ballsy. The strength and courage it takes to not only go alone, but to sit alone in a car with your thoughts.EEK I would be tired of myself when I got 100 miles down the road. Not to mention bored of my IPOD and ready for someone to chit-chat with.

I think this is her "willing change" in her life. She is exploring her options when it comes to starting a new life and taking a different path. But in order to discover what she wants in life now, she must first find who she is. Scary at any age.


When your in a relationship my theory totally backfires. With friends or a "partner" you have to accept them for them. You cannot "Will change" on someone else, they must be steady on their own two feet before they choose to hold your hand for support.

A never ending process it might be....but you must start with a canvas and let life help you create the art that is yourself. My piece of art is left unchanged for long periods of time, but when it evolves, its drastic and beautiful if I might say so myself :)